Apply These 3 Practices to Better Improve your Relationships with your Boss and Colleagues
“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” — Carl Jung
It’s not always easy to remember that others may have a completely different lens with which they view the world. More often than not, when someone does something differently than we would do ourselves, we quickly judge them to be less competent. What if we turned this judgment into tolerance and acceptance, so the differences work for us, rather than against us? It’s amazing when we put in a little effort, how much better we relate and perceive others and the world around us. Below are three steps that will help anyone transform their thought processes to make working with differences much easier.
Take a step back
Considering another perspective doesn’t come naturally, especially in the middle of an argument or when you’ve made a request repeatedly. It is easy to get annoyed and not want to interact or work with this specific person again. Truth be told, sometimes we have to work every day with that person who irritates us most. The most likely reason for our irritation is because of a big, or perhaps even a small, difference that we have.
Take note of the difference
When both parties are aware that there is a difference, it helps more than one may think. For example, if you asked your coworker for a detailed report, from her perspective she may have provided more than enough details, but from your perspective she barely scratched the surface. This is because of a basic difference in behavior and perspective.
Adapt to the difference and develop a common language
When you are able to identify and recognize a difference such as this, it allows you to adapt and talk about it. For the coworker that doesn’t give you enough detail, state specifically what you are looking for and talk to her about the difference. Being aware of this makes one realize that just because a person has a different way of doing things does not make them incompetent.
Adapting to differences may not always be easy to remember or even necessarily do. It will, however, help you manage your differences for more positive interactions. When you start putting in the effort to adapt, especially as a leader, your actions can transform relationships and your work environment.